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It is always a delight to share with you the thank you notes I get from our Kidology Coaching graduates. (Always reprinted with permission – they desire others to know how the Kidology Coaching has changed there life.)
Barney Kindard and Amy Hardeman
This letter comes from Amy Hardeman, and it is our hope it will encourage those of you who may feel like the sides are closing in on them!
Are the walls closing in on you?
Thank you so much for establishing and investing in the Kidology Coaching program. For several years I had been a silent snoop on the Kidology website. A year or so after adopting a newborn from foster care, I will still feeling so overloaded with life and ministry and was having a hard time balancing it all. Before a baby, I had somehow managed to do it all, relying heavily on myself. One day when listening to a KidMin Talk podcast I started to consider the coaching program.
When I first took the plunge and decided to sign up I was feeling a lot like Princess Leia and her Star Wars in the trash compactor scene. From event to event, ministry crisis to crisis, it always seemed like the walls were about to close in on me. I felt overwhelmed by stress with things spinning out of control. In fact, I remember sobbing as I filled out the “Getting to Know You” form. Even just choosing to ask for help was such a big step and a big release from the burden I had been carrying.
At that time, little did I know what the next two years would hold for me: leaving our denomination to plant a new church, impact of the economy on our church’s finances, parenting challenges with our children adopted from foster care, major staff transitions, etc. In spite of all those challenging circumstances, I haven’t once felt like I was in a trash compactor in a Star Wars movie!
That is because I have significantly changed. I have changed my thinking, my mindset and my procedures. Instead of constantly feeling overwhelmed, I am more comfortable managing difficulties, when they arise. I have increased my skillset to handle these challenges. Instead of living in panic mode, I am constantly looking and planning ahead, reevaluating and making adjustments.
A big turning point in my coaching occurred when Barney came to see me on a trip to the Atlanta area. It meant so much to me personally, that he took time from his busy schedule to see me, hang out with my family, and just dream with my husband and I about what our children’s ministry could be. We had recently moved into a new building as a church plant and were just in survival mode. Thanks to his challenges and my investment project, we received over $2,000 in donations and transformed our boring children’s church room into “S.P.Y. Central”.
My church has struggled financially off and on through the years, so I have paid for my entire Kidology Coaching course myself. I also felt like the coaching was something I was doing for me. During some “lean” months, my extra funds were paying for apple juice and cheerios for the nursery. So, I sold crocheted dwarf beards and hats on www.Etsy.com for extra money to pay for my coaching. When you found out, you not only purchased one, you gave me helpful and constructive advice for how to make it better. I appreciated that so very much. All these things helped me to feel like I was truly a part of something bigger. Instead of being a “nobody” in a large organization with an untouchable leader, you make everyone feel like somebody.
Since that first visit, Barney has visited me two other times. Once in California when I flew in for a family funeral and most recently just last month here in Georgia. It was truly God’s perfect timing for me. I was so blessed to receive my graduation certificate in person. Having the opportunity to see Barney face to face, spend time together, to be affirmed and encouraged to dream about the future was absolutely priceless. I now know that whatever ministry opportunities come my way I am well prepared—thanks to his coaching. Our time together left me filled with hope for the future and knowing that He believes in me.
About half way through my coaching, I lost a significant amount of weight as part of a “Biggest Loser” contest at my church. Shortly thereafter, I picked up running to help continue my weight loss. I distinctly recall telling Barney that I had set the goal of running an entire 5K without stopping. As soon as it was out of my mouth, I regretted it. This was too hard! What was I thinking? Just six months later, I have just finished my first half marathon. My journey as a runner has been a physical manifestation of the changes that have taken place in me as a leader. Barney’s coaching has helped me to not just set a goal, but to evaluate, prioritize and do all the stuff it takes to get from setting that goal to achieving it. Just as in running as I grow leaner, I get faster and increase endurance, the more I accomplish in my ministry, the easier it gets, the more intuitive it seems. Although Barney hasn’t given me any running tips, when I crossed that finish line last weekend I was thinking of him and all he has taught me.
I give you my sincere thanks for the investment you have made in me. Today I am a better leader because of Kidology Coaching and look forward to continuing to grow through the graduate program.
If you feel the walls closing in, like Amy did, or simply desire someone to journey with you as you take your life and ministry to the next level, take some time to read through the links at Kidology.org/coaching and pray about whether this could be just want you need. We have several coaches ready for you!
It is always encouraging to hear how Kidology Coaching changes lives as well as ministries. If you have ever considered getting a personal coach, read this letter from our most recent graduate, and pray about growing with one of our coaches. We have just added a woman to our coaching team, so for ladies who have been waiting for that, now is your chance!
Upon graduating from the Kidology Coaching Program, I want let you know that the Kidology Coaching Program has been a “life-saver” for me! Literally! The work that you and the coaches have put into the curriculum, the training you’ve had and all the components of this coaching program is exemplary. I want to tell you how this program has changed my life in hopes that someone else could relate and become a part of the program at a just the right time in their life.
When I signed up for the coaching program I was at a “low” in my ministry. I had gone through the “honeymoon” stage of my ministry (where everyone was thrilled to have me there and helped me along with everything, because I was new and naïve) and was facing some big obstacles—not as much in my ministry circumstances, as inside myself. I had seriously contemplated quitting this job and going back to public education.
I’m thanking God that He brought into my life a certain email from you: the Kidology newsletter that included the Black Friday ad. This spoke to me and I knew I had to look into it. I decided to take a leap and let someone in, someone who I hoped could help me sort through these thoughts and responsibilities. I saw the video of you and Barney on the site and that sealed the deal for me. I am one who needs to have a “sneak peek” into the program, before I will commit to it. I felt like you gave just enough of an overview to let me feel comfortable taking the next step.
I give God the credit, the praise, the glory for reaching down and seeing His servant struggling, just giving her a life preserver in the form of a more experienced servant, one who knew how to weather the storm. This servant of His (Barney) has dedicated his life to seeing students make progress in stepping up, moving forward in their ministries. I can still remember those early conversations we had, when every word was like fresh water for a soul who had been surrounded only by salt water for the longest time. I was able to drink them in, letting them saturate how I thought and communicated, refreshing my ministry outlook. I remember actually hearing Barney’s words in my mind as I had conversations with volunteers or other leaders, and what a reassurance they were to me. To know that someone was there for me, that someone was invested in me and had my back, was a huge morale booster in itself. The curriculum has been a wonderful component in this experience. This was the Children’s Ministry education I always needed, but never got.
Since beginning the Kidology Coaching Program I have seen such a difference in my confidence level in leading adults and I have expanded my knowledge about networking and building relationships with others in Kids Ministry. My productivity has increased as I’ve learned how to manage my time better and I’ve gained two assistants—all things that Barney coached me through very thoroughly. I am excited about the extensive introduction to storytelling, puppetry, magic and object lessons I received with Barney—all things I can use to take my level of ministering to kids to the next step. I have more clarity about my ministry process and what my priorities are, as a leader in Children’s Ministry. My life is all around a much better picture of someone who is relying on God fully and leading with the confidence that God has called me to reach children and resource families.
In closing, I know that the things I read, heard, experienced and talked about during this coaching program have grown me as a person, a servant of God, a Children’s Ministry leader, a wife, mother, and friend. I am so thankful for the hard work and time that has been invested in this program; a program that is reaping benefits, beyond what you know!
My sincere thanks, Kerrianne Gahr
Children’s Director of Atlantic Ave UB Church
There is no other kidmin coaching program available that provides as much one on one TIME with our students than Kidology Coaching, or that has the depth of quality content coming from coaches who are not only experienced children’s ministry leaders, but trained consultants and coaches.
Learn more at: Kidology.org/coaching
Everywhere I go I run into Kidology Members who ask me where they can get affordable Leadership Training and I am surprised how often they are unaware that they have access to FREE online video Leadership Training as part of their Kidology Membership.
I created Kidology Online Training specifically because I know not every leader can go to conferences.
Through these FREE streaming online videos every Premium Member of Kidology can learn what I’ve learned in my twenty plus years of being a leader and children’s pastor.
Then, to add to the learning experience, each training session has an optional add-on download kit that provides a RICH 30+ page PDF that goes even deeper into the material, has bonus material, a downloadable version of the video so you can go mobile with it or full screen and even gives you a PowerPoint so you can then, in turn, train YOUR leaders!
When you are done and compile all FIVE PDFs the sum result is the Kidology Handbook Leader’s Edition, your companion to the highly popular Kidology Handbook Teacher’s Edition.
But remember – while the download kits have a modest fee, the VIDEOS ARE FREE TO VIEW as a part of the Member Benefits!
There are FIVE Leadership Labs:
#1 First Things First – The foundational Leadership Lab that looks at why the most important aspects of ministry have nothing to do with ministry. Put first things first and you will not just survive in children’s ministry, you will thrive.
#2 Visionary Leadership – What does it mean to have vision? How can a clear vision for ministry increase your effectiveness? How do you get your volunteer team working together toward a God-focused vision?
#3 Kid-Focused Ministry Foundations – Let’s take a serious look at the foundation of your children’s ministry. At a time when creating a “fun ministry” has almost become the ultimate pursuit, its time to analyze where your focus should be.
#4 Partnering with Parents – If the very thought of ‘family ministry’ and ‘partnering with parents’ stirs up feelings of failure and discouragement, maybe it’s time to change the way you think about ministering to kids and parents!
#5 Define, Refine and Shine – Are you exhausted? Stress robbing you of the joy of service? Let’s learn how to evaluate your children’s ministry, while also looking at keeping your life organized.
AND THE BEST DEAL is to get all five AS A BUNDLE. But remember, WATCHING the online training videos – is 100% FREE for Kidology Premium Members.
So stop wondering where you can get quality insightful leadership training. If you are one of the thousands of Kidology.org members… you already HAVE access to leadership training!
All you need to do is take the time to watch AND LEARN! My life’s Mission and heart’s Passion is to Equip and Encourage Those Who Minister to children.
Please take advantage of these Leadership Labs. I can’t tell you what a difference they will make in your ministry. And if you are one of our scholarship ministries and need this training, let us know. We will make this material available to you at no cost. We trust your integrity when you ask.
Because Jesus Loves Children,
Pastor Karl Bastian
P.S. – And make sure you are tuning into my FREE podcast KidminTalk.com – and when you are ready to get really serious about your ministry, get yerself a Kidology Coach!
Do you love to Equip and Encourage in Kidmin?
Many in children’s ministry are struggling to survive each week – they are beginners just figuring things out. They are needing help and are seeking it all over the web. They end up on Kidology.org by the thousands daily.
Are YOU that special breed THAT LOVE TO HELP kidmins like that?
Long before Facebook, Twitter, or any other kidmin blog or website – Kidology.org has existed for the SOLE purpose of Equipping and Encouraging Those in Children’s Ministry – AND YOU CAN JOIN OUR TEAM. As we approach our 20 year birthday, we are looking to grow our ministry team.
Kidology.org is the single largest online database of collective HELP for those in children’s ministry – and it has gotten that way because of people who share my passion for Equipping and Encouraging Those in Children’s Ministry.
- Do you love answering questions?
- Do you love to write?
- Do you love to publish materials?
- Do you love to share what you create?
Kidology.org offers the perfect place for you to MINISTER to other kidmins ALL OVER THE WORLD! And we need your help. We have a volunteer team of Kidmin Professionals (tho ‘professional’ doesn’t mean they are paid staff – it is a statement of their quality and excellence) who serve on staff at Kidology writing, serving, advising, answering questions in our forum, and ministering to the thousands who visit our website daily from all corners of the globe. (Side note: how can a globe have corners?) Our Kidmin Pro Team have a private forum where we also minister to each other. It’s a fun team to be on.
If you blog, write, create, encourage, share, teach, coach, advise, or are otherwise a nut about children’s ministry – you ought to be on the Kidology Kidmin Pro Team. We write movie reviews for Kidology, World of Kids for K Magazine, and in general use our gifts to keep kidmins out there Equipped and Encouraged.
If you are interested in joining the Kidmin Pro Team – please let me know! Just put “I’m interested in the Kidmin Pro Team” in the comments box when you contact me, or tweet or e-mail me. Just let me know!
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If you have ever considered Kidology Coaching, read what this recent graduate has to say… (edited down from a much longer detailed account of her experience and how it helped her.)
February 26, 2013
I remember my first experiences in Children’s Ministry as a recent college grad. There were little resources at that time. I researched, listened to your podcasts and read forum conversations with great interest. When I began the Coaching program I was anticipating a quality experience. What I received was something greater than I expected.
Coach Barney has been an invaluable source of encouragement and support. This Coaching experience has been a leadership makeover for me. The journey has been more about remodeling the soul of a minister than adding to my resume. I have wanted to be coached in leadership for years. This process has been life changing. Kidology Coaching has prepared me for a career position in a healthy, mid-size church. Like an athletic coach, Barney came alongside to strengthen my gifts and talents. At the same time, he also helped me redefine my leadership skills plus I even added some new skills. Thanks to my Coaching experience, I am now ready to take my ministry to a whole new level.
Thanks Karl, for this incredible gift. I have been encouraged and equipped to expand my leadership potential. I am looking forward to what the Graduate Program will hold. Kidology has proven to be one of the best investments in my leadership experience.
Kidology Coaching has the potential to be a life-changer. If you are ready to take your life and ministry to the next level, you owe it to yourself to give Kidology Coaching a close look.