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Love Is More Than Being Nice

Children’s ministry leaders talk about love constantly. Love kids. Love families. Love your team. But biblical love is far deeper than simply being nice. The Fruit of the Spirit begins with love because love shapes every other fruit. Joy, peace, patience, kindness, and the rest all flow from a heart transformed by God. Galatians 5:22 says: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. And Jesus raised the bar even higher in John 13:34: A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. That kind of love changes how we lead. Love changes how we speak to volunteers when they make mistakes. Love changes how we respond to difficult parents. Love changes how we treat exhausted team members after a long Sunday morning. Love notices people. One of the greatest leadership traps in ministry is becoming so focused on programs that we stop seeing people. But healthy ministry grows when leaders intentionally put people ahead of productivity. Kids notice this too. Children may not remember every lesson we teach, but they absolutely remember how we made them feel. A child…

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Stop Holding Up the Rock

I snapped the photo below of my friend Zach while hiking in Yosemite. At first glance, it looks like he’s holding up a massive boulder. His face says it all—strained, burdened, fighting to keep the weight from crushing him. Of course, He’s not really holding up the rock. The rock is holding itself up. But isn’t that exactly how ministry can feel sometimes? There are seasons when it seems like we’re carrying everything. Recruiting volunteers. Writing lessons. Scheduling teams. Solving staffing problems. Ordering supplies. Managing budgets. Answering parent emails. Training leaders. Following up with guests. Planning events. Putting out fires. Preparing for Sunday while already worrying about next Sunday. The list never seems to end. Before long, we begin to feel like the success of the ministry rests entirely on our shoulders. We start pushing up against the weight of it all, convinced that if we stop for even a moment, everything will come crashing down. Yet God never asked us to hold up the rock. In fact, Scripture paints an entirely different picture. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” A refuge is not something you carry. A refuge is something that…

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Helping Kids Shine Their Light in a Dark World

Most kids do not think of themselves as influencers. They are just trying to figure out life, friendships, and where they fit. But the truth is, every child is already influencing the people around them, whether they realize it or not. This week we are helping kids understand something simple but powerful: their life is a light, and they can shine for Jesus. Light does not have to be big to make a difference. Even a small light stands out in the dark. It guides, it reveals, and it points the way. That is the picture we want kids to see. They do not have to wait until they are older to make a difference. Right now, through their kindness, their words, and their actions, they can point people toward Jesus. We see this in Peter’s life. After failing, he was restored and went on to boldly share his faith. God used him to impact thousands. That is what God does. He takes ordinary people and uses them in extraordinary ways. So we help kids make it personal. Think of one person. One friend, one classmate, one neighbor. Someone they can pray for, encourage, or invite. Because shining your light…

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Teaching Kids to Forgive When It’s Hard

Every child will experience hurt. Sometimes it is small, like an unkind word or being left out. Other times it runs deeper. No matter how it shows up, how a child responds to hurt will shape their relationships for years to come. This week we are helping kids understand a truth that is simple to say but often difficult to live: forgive others quickly, just as Jesus forgave you. Forgiveness does not come naturally. Our instinct is to hold on, protect ourselves, or make sure others understand how much they hurt us. But when hurt lingers, it does not just affect one moment. It begins to shape the heart. That is where the picture of a first-aid kit comes in. When a child gets hurt physically, we treat the wound so it can heal. In the same way, when relationships are hurt, they need care. Forgiveness is what begins that healing process. Forgiveness does not mean pretending nothing happened. It means choosing not to hold on to the hurt. It is a decision to release it and trust God with what comes next. We give kids a simple way to remember this: admit, identify, and decide. Admit your part, identify…

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Why Obedience Isn’t About Rules—It’s About Direction

We live in a world that celebrates independence. Kids are constantly hearing messages like follow your heart, do what feels right, and go your own way. And if we are honest, that sounds appealing. None of us naturally lean toward obedience because it can feel restrictive or limiting. But Scripture offers a very different perspective. It reminds us that there is a right way and a wrong way, and more importantly, that the path we choose actually matters. That is why we are helping kids understand a truth that may not always be popular, but is incredibly important: obedience today leads to blessing tomorrow. Obedience is often misunderstood. Kids tend to hear it as just another rule to follow. But what if obedience is not about rules at all? What if it is about direction? That is where the image of a compass becomes so helpful. A compass does not control you. It guides you. It points you toward where you need to go, especially when things feel unclear. In the same way, Jesus is our True North. When life feels confusing or pressure is high, He consistently points us back to what is right. God’s way is not just…

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The Small Choices That Shape a Child’s Future

Every child is making decisions all day long. What to say. How to respond. Who to follow. What to hide. What to admit. Most of those choices feel small. But they aren’t. Because small choices don’t stay small. They stack. They build. They quietly shape direction. Scripture reminds us to pay attention to the path we’re on. Not just where we are—but where we’re headed. And that path is shaped by the choices we make. That’s why this week in our ROCK SOLID series, we’re helping kids understand something that many adults are still learning: You don’t drift into a good life. You choose your way there. One of the most helpful pictures we used is a helmet. Kids understand helmets. You wear one because what’s inside matters. And the Bible tells us to guard our hearts—because everything flows from it. In other words, what’s happening inside a child—their thinking, their decisions, their responses—will shape everything about their future. So we told them: Put a helmet on your heart. Protect your choices. Protect your direction. But we didn’t stop there—we gave them something they can actually use in real life. When you’re faced with a decision: Stop – Stop before…

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